How to deal with overwhelm…

Sometime last week, and spilling into early this week I was feeling completely overwhelmed.

Overwhelmed by the thought of everything I wanted to be and do.

How on earth am I going to cope? Can I really be all these things?

Then I found out I wasn’t alone, there’s really something called the ‘January Blues’….. But, I beat it anyway!

This is what has helped:

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As far as you can do….

January is a month that is generally dedicated to setting the course for the entire year.

Individuals and corporates set goals.

Churches call a fast. 21 days. 40 days. Even 50 day fasts or longer have been known to be undertaken.

The purpose is unanimous. This must be our best year yet! 

We want new jobs. We want promotions. We want more money. We want better relationships. We want to get married. We want children. We want to be happy. We want jaw-dropping testimonies!

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Your 2017 Quick Start Guide

Happy New Year!!! {insert fireworks}

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Can you believe it? Week one of 2017 is gone already! Gone. Forever.

And the euphoria of the new year is beginning to wear off. In fact, some of those who bothered to set new year resolutions are gradually beginning to sing a new song…that’s how old the year is already! Lol…

But, the truth is, if you want to be able to look back on this year, and have it full of awesome achievements, and testimonies too, there are a couple of things you must do.

Here is a simple Quick Start Guide to help you start off in the right direction:

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Thank you….

2016 has been….well, a year!

Have you taken some time to look back on 2016 yet?

I found this task rather tedious for no apparent reason. I kept struggling until a dear friend suggested I look through the pictures on my phone, and look for any other mementos, since I didn’t journal actively (I shall see about this next year).

And the memories came flooding back…

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What’s so special about December?

December

This is for you if 2016 so far hasn’t been everything you hoped and dreamed.

This is for you if 2016 dealt you a rather tough hand.

This is for you if you do a mental check of your long list of ‘things to achieve in 2016’, and quite a lot is yet to be crossed off.

This is for you if you struggle to see what’s so special about December.

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The Power of The Next Step

Next Step

“If you want to know what your future holds… Look at where you are in the Here and Now. The future will be another step down the same path you’re already on. So if you want to feel (be) different tomorrow… Change how you feel (are) today.”  – Jesse Elder

A couple of months ago, I was at a hangout with the lovely ladies of a movement called Inspired Women of Worth (iWoW), and there I listened to Tomi Rotimi of Exclamations speak.

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Your Network Is Your Net Worth

Who do you run to when you need support?
Who are your ‘personal’ people – ahead of you, at par with you or behind you?

Who do you trust to put in a word for you in the right hearing when you need it most?

Who is that person who you’re sure will do everything within their means to help you succeed?

Who is unashamed to be rooting for you? Who will risk being looked at one ‘kain’ for doing unusual stuff for you?

Who will put ALL of their resources at your disposal?

As I go to and fro social media (Instagram to be precise), I can’t help noticing young people pulling off amazing feats…

Neither do I fail to notice the young and not-so-young people who seem to be at their beck and call…

Laying bare ALL of their resources for their use….

Rooting for them loud and clear!

And it happens everywhere – work place, business place, market place, every place…

One of my friends in the University had something weird going on. She had ‘people projects’. She just picks on someone randomly she wants to get friendly with. It was a bit weird because she used to pick the not so popular people. But, guess what? Those people come to hold her in high esteem, and would probably never forget her….

You ought to start a ‘people project’ too, or a ‘network project’ if you like, especially if networking doesn’t come so naturally to you…

Plant your network tree before you need shade, dig the well before you are thirsty…

People are everything. We pray to God, but He uses people to answer those prayers…

Start today, think of one person you’ll like to get friendly with at work, in business, or simply in life, and reach out to them. If you’re afraid of being rejected, don’t start with someone who can help you, start with someone you can help. What you make happen for others, God makes happen for you…

Your network is your net worth…

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The Number One Habit….

Habit

We hear it almost everyday; sigh, sigh, sigh….

I just can’t get myself motivated enough to (lose weight, test my blood sugar, eat healthy consistently, finally commit to personal growth, learn something new, make that change I/ my business/ my career so desperately need, etc). And we hear an equal number of sighs from diabetes educators, doctors, coaches, CEOs, parents, etc) who can’t get their patients (subordinates, children, mentees, proteges) to do the right thing for their diabetes and health (or career and life).

 

We have news for you. Motivation is not going to strike you like lightning. And motivation is not something that someone else – nurse, doctor, family member, manager, peers, CEO – can bestow or foce on you. The whole idea of motivation is a trap. Forget motivation. Just do it.

 

Exercise, lose weight, test your blood sugar, or your blood pressure, buy a new book and actually read it, get hold of your finances (finally start saving, investing), spend more time with your spouse, your children. Do it without motivation, and then guess what? After you start doing the thing, that’s when motivation comes and makes it easy for you to keep doing it.

 

Motivation is like love and happiness. It’s a by-product. When you’re actively involved in doing something, it sneaks up and zaps you when you least expect it.

 

As Havard psychologist Jerome Burner says, “You are more likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.” This is worth repeating: “You are more likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.”

 

So act! Whatever (pure things) it is you know you should do, do it. Just do it!

 

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How to start planning (even when you don’t like planning…)

planning

 

Some people are just natural at planning.

They like to plan everything ahead.

And then add a Plan B, and C subconsciously. Just in case! They do it without much ado.

I am one of them.

I think it’s because I really really don’t like surprises? Yeah, I know that sounds boring….Lol.

I remember once when DH planned a surprise birthday party for me. He actually had to throw some hints my way, so I’m not caught completely unawares. Lol…so much for a surprise birthday party! Guess he knows me too well!

Long and short of the story is, if I get the opportunity, I prefer to plan ahead. As much as is humanly possible.

But, I realize, this planning lifestyle doesn’t come as naturally for everyone. Some people are actually on the other extreme. They can’t get themselves to plan anything ahead. And I mean anything. They are nearly completely spontaneous. Their motto is ‘Que sera sera….whatever will be will be….the future’s not ours to see….que sera sera….’

Mostly, it simply boils down to personality rather than anything else. And one personality is not better than the other, as long as we all find a way to balance out what is needful.

And I dare say planning is needful.

Why?

Because if you can truly articulate what you want out of your life {insert finances, business, health, family, etc} at some point down the road {weeks, months, or year(s)}, and can figure out what you need to make it a reality, and go further to break it down into actionable baby steps, then you are bound to increase the probability of making it a reality by more than 50%.

I’ll take that chance and plan ahead.

Surely we all have ideas floating in our heads regarding what we want. Who doesn’t want more money, a happy family, progress in their career and the likes? But, big things hardly happen with vague ideas floating in your head somewhere. It usually takes a little more than that. You would do better with a specific representation of what you want, penned down. And you will have to constantly work at it. Never mind the fact that what you want may change along the way, what matters is that the exercise keeps you focused, keeps you accountable, and keeps you growing. So, if it changes, no big deal, change it.

Guess what? I hate to break it to you, but it’s that time of year again. 2016 is gradually coming to an end – the first month of the last quarter is nearly over – and plans for 2017 will soon be in top gear.

Truth be told though, even the natural planners amongst us still fail to properly harness the power of planning for the really important aspects of our lives. How much more, those who do not ‘like’ planning.

So, my job today is to keep it simple, especially for those who don’t really like planning.

Here’s what you can do to get started:

  1. Accept the fact that you need to plan: This is step number one. Get your mind aligned. It’s no secret. You will achieve much more with a plan than you would without one. So, do yourself a favor and accept this reality.
  2. Take baby steps: Now that you’ve accepted that you need to plan, get right into it. You can start to incorporate planning into your every day life by doing simple things like picking out what you will wear the next day at the end of each day; or planning out your meals for a full week if you’re keen on healthy eating; or working out exactly how much you want to spend (or can afford to spend) the rest of this month; you can also flip that and work out how much you want to save (I’m better with this one…spending is another matter, hehehehe). You get the drift? If you are an entrepreneur, a good one will be how much you still want to make before the end of this year, plus how you intend to make it. 

The point is to start small, pick whatever catches your fancy and plan it. TODAY! Especially if you are the completely spontaneous type. The more you exercise your planning muscles in simple things, the more you can cascade it to other aspects of your life. Nothing beats taking action if you want to learn a new skill or habit.

3. Work it: Even though planning in itself gives you clarity and helps you grow, a plan is only as good as your execution of it. So, if you want your plan to work, you gotta work it!

Hope you take action today!

Is this happening to you?

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Hey Fam!

How are you holding up in these uncertain times?

Quite frankly, the talk of recession-recession-recession is beginning to wear me out. You can’t get into any decent conversation with Nigerians these days without hearing the ‘R’ word. The classical answer to everything now is…‘it’s the recession!’ Or ‘don’t you know we’re in a recession?’ It’s the reason someone is yet to be married, it’s the reason an able bodied young man throws in the towel and neither looks for a job nor engages in a potentially profitable venture, it’s the reason a business man no longer does a decent job of trying to attract clients. After all, there is ‘no money’ in the economy, don’t you know we’re in a recession? And the news doesn’t help one bit!

In fact the word on the street is that household shopping is ending more and more in panic attacks, plus emergency meeting of madam and the househelps on ration sizes, plus express threats of not buying certain brands of provision for the children anymore…all these picky children have no idea now, do they? Hian!

So, things have changed, and so should you.

But….! Mind how you change! Don’t join the rhetoric of complaining about the recession or escalating prices, which I sorta prefer. Stay calm and devise creative ways of coping with the changes instead. And please, don’t believe everything you hear….Relax! there is still ‘money’ in the economy. Plenty money sef. 

You heard me, the money hasn’t gone anywhere, but the rules have changed, and are still changing. Spending habits are changing, organisations are changing…

I got this excerpt from a message I received from a colleague at work yesterday:

“The story is told of two men sitting in a bar. The first sits there and mopes, feeling sorry for himself.
Bartender: “What’s the problem?”
The man responded: “The economy is awful. My business is losing money every second, and I may have to declare bankruptcy.”
Bartender: “I’m so sorry, here, have a beer on the house.”
A few minutes later, the bartender sees the second man celebrating and buying drinks for everyone.
Bartender: “What’s the occasion?”
The second man: “The economy is awful!”
Confused, the bartender asks: “Why on earth would you celebrate that?”
The second man: “I’m a bankruptcy lawyer!””

The title of the piece was ‘a coin has two sides’. I totally agree. This recession-recession-recession we’re screaming at the top of our lungs has two sides. The negative and complaining side; and the positive and profitable side. You should choose the positive side. If you ever say ‘we’re in a recession’, you should follow it by how you’re harnessing that bit of information. Because, that’s what it is – information. What you do with that information is what really determines what side of the coin you land on.

Have you planned out your finances for the next couple of months or you’re still buying away banking on the alert you are bound to receive at the end of the month, or not receive? Have you thought of ways to preserve your wealth however big or small (government securities, mutual funds, investments and the rest) or are you still holding your little nest in a savings or current account, knowing fully well that in a recession the value erodes daily? Scratch that….The value erodes by the minute! Have you thought about more innovative ways to deliver your services to your customer so that you don’t have to increase prices, and yet preserve a large chunk of your profit margin? Have you thought of what business ideas are particularly known to thrive in a recession? just like the bankruptcy lawyer in the excerpt above? Have you thought about a replacement for your lost income stream, or a second or third stream of income as the case may be?

If you haven’t thought about some or all of these, this is a clarion call to please do! Don’t let this recession happen to you! After all, the bible tells us of how Isaac sowed in the land in the same year there was a famine, and he reaped a hundred fold, because…the Lord blessed him (Isaiah 26: 1, 12-14). Keep sowing in faith, and the Lord will surely bless!

Between, did you hear the story of the boys washing their hands with expensive champagne at a night club recently? And your’re busy shouting there’s ‘no money!’ Abegiii, you better position for a progression in this recession (did I just rhyme?, Lol…)

Hope you take action today!