Guest Post by Deji Jemiyo: Be The Game!

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Sometime about 3 years ago, I came across an audio message by Pastor Chris Oyakilome. A short 4-minute audio that centers around mental readiness and action steps to succeed in life. One part of the message particularly resonated with me, and anytime I need to motivate myself to keep going I always go back to listen to the message just to hear this part….

 “……time is important don’t spend your time watching TV, Videos 24 hours. Those that you are watching have put their best into what you are watching. Change the position, say to yourself, I will be watched….Some of you are so hung up on designers, designer this, designer that, where are your own designs….?”

How powerful?! Have you ever thought or wondered if you could be the next Tom Cruise, Lionel Messi,  Genevieve Nnaji, Roger Federer, Richard Branson, Mark Zukerberg? Can you see the possibilities? Or does it sound ridiculous and unattainable to you given your current realities?

I want to implore you today. Take Pastor Chris’ advice. Change the game. Be the game. You too can be watched!

Many people think Game Changers have some kind of advantage – luck, extraordinary talent or privilege that separates them from the rest. There is, in fact, something that separates them from the rest, but it’s not any of these things. What they have is clarity of thought, a great positive mindset, grit and audacity, compassion for making the world around them a better place.

Game Changers are willing to look different, act different, and go off in their own direction. They change the way things are done, thought about or made. They believe things can be done better, faster or cheaper. They solve problems. They are constantly on the lookout for opportunities to address challenges, or provide solutions. They are willing to go above and beyond, take calculated risks, and stand up for a worthy cause. 

 Are you able/ willing to change the game for your life? Here are a few things you can do to become a Game Changer:

  1. Change Your Attitude – Nothing can alter your circumstances quicker than a positive attitude. Even the worst of situations can be turned around with the right attitude.
  2. Change Your Attire – That’s right! You many need to change your appearance. Dress for the position you want to attain. Dressing it up can improve your confidence, as well. If you want to be taken seriously, make sure you dressing reflects this intention.
  3. Change Your Job – Well, if you need to, why not? It may be a bad opportunity. It may not be a cultural fit for you. Whatever the reason, make the decision and move on when you must.
  4. Change Your Time – Well, I mean change how you spend it. Try shifting your work schedule. Many people find that working earlier in the day provides a boost to their productivity. What would happen if you arrived at work a half-an-hour earlier each day?
  5. Change Your Habits – Your habits define who you are. If you are on a negative path, you may need to change what you do every day. Replace negative habits with positive ones.
  6. Change Your Relationships – Very important! You are who you hang out with. This is true whether you like it or not. What crowd are you hanging with? It can be hard to change friendships, but it is sometimes necessary.
  7. Change Your Perspective – Don’t be narrow-minded. Listen to learn. Expose yourself to a wide array of new material. Put yourself in the shoes of someone else. How does your boss (or significant other) truly see you? If you are in charge of others, try doing their job for a day. It may change your views.
  8. Change Your Hobbies – It may be fun to stay up until 3 a.m watching TV or playing the latest online video game. However, those activities are probably not taking you where you want to go.
  9. Change Your Skills – Well, update them, by learning something new. What have you learned lately? Taking a class to learn a new skill or finishing your degree, or finally taking that certification exam may be the thing that finally changes the game for you.

All these may sound like common sense, but of what use is common sense if not applied? You can achieve uncommon success by committing to applying these simple tips. 

I rest my pen, but don’t you forget: Up your game! Change the game! Be the game!

N.B: Something is coming! I’m working on a series of books for career, business, project and start-up success. It’s going to be game changing. It’s going to be phenomenal. Watch out!

To your success,

Deji Jemiyo, The Game Changer

How productive are you?

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Productivity on my mind today.

And the question is: ‘How really productive are you?’

It’s an interesting question for two reasons. One is, many of us go through the motions of life – work, family, religion, etc, without pausing to think about this. Two is, many of us that bother to pause and think measure our productivity by ‘comparing’ ourselves to others. Interesting yard stick.

So, you have this friend or schoolmate you unconsciously measure yourself against. And it seems logical. You went through school at the same pace and graduated same year….so you ought to progress through life on roughly the same schedule. At least not so far from each other you rationalise. When they get their first job, you wonder why you don’t have yours. Same thing when they get married, have their first child, get ahead in their career….etc.

Okay, maybe you don’t measure yourself against a friend or old school mate/ colleague. What about your younger sibling. Gotcha! Right? This one seems really logical. You came into this world before them, so you ought to stay ahead of them, at least if only slightly.

I’m sure just reading this would make anyone realize that measuring your results or productivity like this is plain torture.

Our common friend google defines productivity like so:

“the effectiveness of productive effort, especially in industry, as measured in terms of the rate of output per unit of input.”

And I kinda agree. I scratched the industry part because the definition works whether in industry or otherwise. So, productivity measures rate of output per unit of input.

Therefore, in simple terms how productive you are would depend on your unique combination of gifts and talents; and your ability to recognize them and work them.

I found an interesting bible passage to illustrate this: ‘The parable of the ten talents’ Voila!

(Matthew 25: 14 – 30)

14 “Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. 15 To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. 16 The man who had received five bags of gold went at once and put his money to work and gained five bags more. 17 So also, the one with two bags of gold gained two more. 18 But the man who had received one bag went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money…..”

This man gave to each servant what he thought they could handle. And when he returned to settle accounts with them he wasn’t wrong after all. Each one was judged to have done well or otherwise based on what they were given and their dedication towards working it, so much so that they doubled it.

And of course, the servant who got just one talent also proved his master right. He did nothing with it. His presentation was full of complaints, and fear. Fear! He knew his master was hard and didn’t want to lose his money so he neglected to work it. He hid it instead! Of course the one talent was snatched from him and given to the more productive servant.

Someone once said: ‘God is a capitalist’. Now, this is not anywhere in the holy books, but it’s easy to believe since we are made in the image and likeness of God, and you wouldn’t keep putting more resources where you don’t expect it to grow and multiply, will you? At most you’ll put in the barest minimum there.

My point is, we would each produce greater results in our lives if we focus on working the talents and resources we’ve been graciously given. If we quit comparing ourselves to others and wishing we were handed their own combination of talents. If we quit complaining. If we boldly go for it, and throw fear out the window….And what’s more, the more productive you are with what you have, the more you attract (a.k.a the more God entrusts you with). 

So, to become more productive in any sphere of your life – work, family, finances, etc, you must take an inventory of all the resources at your disposal today – time, money, talents/ passions, people, etc; and commit to working these resources till they produce more and help you become more.

Hope you take action today!





Do you need to declutter?

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The classical definition of clutter is cramming so much into a space than it can hold meaningfully. If you’ve seen any episode of ‘Clean House’ on DSTV (used to be hosted by Niecy Nash), I’m sure you’ll agree with me. Episode after episode you find people who clutter their homes to mind-numbing degrees. Sometimes, I can’t help but wonder “who does this?”. How do you keep bringing more stuff into your home to the point where there is hardly walking space. In fact, there is hardly sleeping space on some beds! Pheeew!

This process of cluttering happens gradually, and quite unintentionally too. Those pair of shoes that seemed like a deal you couldn’t afford to pass up (even though the shoes were not exactly your size sef)! Those clothes you are holding on to in hopes of losing some weight (I’m everly guilty of this one), all those hair care and skin care products that lose their appeal after the first use. Take away plates nkor? they seemed like great freezer bowls at the time but you have now accumulated so much! That sounds like you, right? Me too!

It brings me to a realization that most of us overestimate what we actually need for a fulfilling existence. Face it, you have enough clothes and shoes, what you lack is creativity. Ouch!  Here’s a litmus test, if there are clothes or shoes in your wardrobe that you have not worn in 3 months, then you most definitely have more than you need. You can stretch that a bit and say 6 months if you like. Many of us have clothes and shoes we haven’t worn, or only worn a few times in 2 years!

Interestingly, so much belongings can actually be a pain in the behind! Clutter weighs down, clutter masks beauty, clutter makes it difficult to get to what is important. Have you ever been in a situation where you want to wear this particular skirt/ top and you have to throw everything down and sweat it out in order to get to it? You need to declutter!

Like our homes, many of us gradually clutter our lives. Quite unintentionally too. We sign up for one more activity. Make one more commitment. Volunteer in one more cause. Join another group in church. We hold on to issues in our hearts, long after they have lost any relevance. When we should have healed and moved on, we choose to stay in pain. Dealing with clutter is tough and tedious, but it must be done at some point. The fatigue and burn out it leads to are surely not worth it. At the end of the day, just a few things really matter, and if we are true to ourselves (as we should be), we know what these are. A calendar that is full to overflowing is not necessarily a good thing.  I know that being busy makes many of us feel important, some even use activities as a form of escape. But be careful, so that you don’t trap yourself in a rat race. All motion, no movement.

Ever heard of the term ‘white space’? In architecture, a white space or negative space is a strategically unfilled space. Meaning, you deliberately leave a space bare. It has also been imported into process management to mean areas where no one is in charge, and there are a number of other connotations. You know the feeling when you walk into a large spacious reception in an organisation or a large uncluttered sitting room in a home. It’s beautiful, and somewhat edifying. The space in itself confers some sort of magnificence. That’s what white space does, when used strategically. You feel free! You feel relaxed! You feel more…

I have since adopted a systematic approach to declutter my home. Giving up belongings to a mission to the less privileged has been a great avenue for me. But, it hasn’t been an easy task. Many times I put away some things to be given out or even thrown away depending on the condition, but I find myself going back and saying this one is so pretty, maybe I can still wear it a few more times. Or, I just might lose enough weight to be able to wear this again.

Decluttering is never an easy task, whether it’s your home or your life. Taking the right steps to prevent accumulating clutter in the future is even tougher. But, the ROI can be magnificent.

The first step towards becoming more productive is to declutter, so that you can have full view of what truly matters at every point in time; and devote enough time and attention to those.

Less is truly more. For both your home and your life.

Hope you take action today!

Comments, thoughts? Let’s hear them in the comments section below.

And don’t forget to share!

#Rejiggedandreblogged. First published on adenikeblog in October, 2013.

Trust your journey….

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In my first semester at the Lagos Business School, while studying for my full-time MBA, I had to take a few classes in Speed Reading. It seemed rather logical with the volume of material we were expected to digest at the end of each day and discuss in class the following day, we sure needed it. This was the school’s way of subtly making it clear that there would be no excuses for not studying your cases and getting ready to contribute in class. There was a score for class participation, and this made up a fair amount of your final score (can’t remember now, but I think it was about 30%).

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All is well….


Yesterday, I was going through instagram, and I found all sorts of interesting and inspirational photos and captions. The usual.

I will normally concur, like, maybe even share – at least the ones that catch my fancy. But most of them just seemed to rub me off wrongly this time. One read: “Don’t let anyone steal your dream”, the very next one read “Be so busy improving yourself that you have no time criticising others”.

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Your strategy is not what you say it is…


There’s one book that has warmed it’s way into our hearts – myself and darling husband (DH) that is. We’ve gifted more than 15 copies of this book in the past year and a half or so. I have in fact made a commitment to read this book at the beginning of every year, and I find myself still running back during the year. It’s that awesome, so full of wisdom.

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2016 Goals – Is it too late?


It’s been a bit quiet around here! 

For a million and one reasons, but I choose not to bore you. The good thing though, is that I’m back and better….Hallelujah? :)

If your strategy this year is to put everything in the hands of God, and wake up on December 31st, to find out how the year turned out, then this post is for you, because you will be selling yourself really short.

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Mid-year review for the goal-diggers.

Today happens to be the last day of the first half of 2016! Did I get an hallelujah to that?

At this time of year, a lot of companies with a formal performance evaluation system launch a mid-year review to appraise employees against performance objectives/ goals that were set at the beginning of the year. And in effect appraise how the company is doing in terms of it’s corporate objectives for the year. These mid-year reviews are intended to evaluate progress towards intended year-end results. 

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Ultrapreneur Interview: How Dunni Obata Makes Magic at Dooney’s Kitchen While Acing it at a 9-5

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So, I got something big cooking today…..**wink**

I was super excited conducting this interview! Dunni is one person who truly epitomizes mastering the fine art of following your dreams while fully invested at a day job. In fact with all she does at Dooney’s Kitchen, it’s so easy to not notice she’s employed! I felt like a child who had just been handed a cookie jar when I finally got a go-ahead to call. ‘Call me now, I’ll multi-task’. And the rest they say is history….

I present to you Oladunni Obata of the famed Dooney’s Kitchen! **drum roll please**

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