How to deal with overwhelm…

Sometime last week, and spilling into early this week I was feeling completely overwhelmed.

Overwhelmed by the thought of everything I wanted to be and do.

How on earth am I going to cope? Can I really be all these things?

Then I found out I wasn’t alone, there’s really something called the ‘January Blues’….. But, I beat it anyway!

This is what has helped:

1.Turn off notifications: Yaassss!! If the January Blues are getting to you too, by all means do turn off notifications on ALL your social media outlets. ALL – Facebook, Instagram, even whatsapp, and whatever else you subscribe to. If you’re feeling overwhelmed already, watching what is ‘seemingly’ happening in other people’s lives is not going to help one bit. And I say seemingly because social media is really a game of perception….ahn-ahn-ahn! The fact that somebody poses in front of a hotel and posts pictures about it doesn’t mean they can afford it. They leave you to assume they can, and you’re never going to ask anyway. You go ahead and assume.

So, social media can be great for entertainment and inspiration, but don’t let it pressure you into thinking you’re the only one not ‘doing it’, whatever ‘it’ is. If you stay on your grind, you will smash your own goals too. No pressure.

Yesterday was DH’s birthday though, so I was very very ‘social’, lol…

Bonus Tip: It does help to unfollow some people. You know them. You can choose to check in once in a while, but you don’t have to know every detail of what’s going on in other people’s lives. Especially if they make you feel ‘one kain’.

2. Turn to scriptures. Whatever it is you’re going through. However it is it is doing you (is that even english?, lol), there’s a scripture for it. We must never lose our anchor in God, no matter what. I found many interesting scriptures to help me stay on track, but my favourite by far is this:

This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says: “Only in returning to me and resting in me will you be saved. In quietness and confidence is your strength”. But you would have none of it (you are unwilling)…

Are you willing to to be saved? Find strength in God. Stay quiet and confident. No wahala.

3. Turn inwards. Last but not the least. Turn inwards. Take another look at some of the things you’re beating yourself over, and challenge your own assumptions of what you must ‘be’ and ‘do’.

The truth is you don’t have to be anything, or be like anyone. Don’t let social media tell you who you should be, or what you should be doing – in any aspect of your life. Let your inner compass guide you into who you already are, and refine and polish that until it completely shines through.  I found out long ago that there is no standing in the way of purpose. Like Steve Jobs says, when you find it you will know, because it just feels right. Struggling to be what you’re not is the number one source of overwhelm and exhaustion. I once read this somewhere:

The antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest, but wholeheartedness, it is those things you do half-heartedly that really wear you out.

So, if you find yourself doing anything at all that you can’t give your all for whatever reason, let it go. Don’t let it wear you out. Focus on those things you can really do whole-heartedly. On the flip side, if it’s important to you, and completely resonates with you, make a conscious effort to do it whole-heartedly, and the rewards will surely come. No argument.

Hope this helps someone.

Don’t forget, whatever you have to do, do it today. Take action today, I just did!


  1. Tayo says:

    Quite inspiring. God bless you dear sis. The scripture is on point as January blues can indeed make you beat yourself over and over again but there is a need to pause and go back to God. We shouldn’t say it’s to early in the year to have a retreat and reevaluate.
    Then, unfollowing some peeps on social media is a nice idea too. Some can inspire you to achieve more but sometimes as human we may begin to compare and feel bad that we are not there yet.

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